To get out of an abusive or violent relationship isn’t easy and sometime you still hope that your situation will change.

If you are being abused, remember this, You are not to blame for being battered or mistreated.

2. You are not the cause of your partner’s abusive behavior.

3. You deserve to be treated with respect.

4. You deserve a safe and happy life.

5. Your children deserve a safe and happy life.

6. You are not alone. There are people waiting to help.

Signs that your abuser is NOT changing

  • He minimizes the abuse or denies how serious it really was.
  • He continues to blame others for his behavior.
  • He claims that you’re the one who is abusive.
  • He pressures you to go to couple’s counseling.
  • He tells you that you owe him another chance.
  • You have to push him to stay in treatment.
  • He says that he can’t change unless you stay with him and support him.
  • He tries to get sympathy from you, your children, or your family and friends.
  • He expects something from you in exchange for getting help.
  • He pressures you to make decisions about the relationship.

Get ready to leave

A domestic violence shelter or women’s shelter is a building or set of apartments where abused and battered women can go to seek refuge from their abusers. The location of the shelter is kept confidential in order to keep your abuser from finding you. Your first step will be to reach out.

Building healthy new relationships

After getting out of an abusive situation, you may be eager to jump into a new relationship and finally get the intimacy and support you’ve been missing.

Be wise to go slow. Take the time to get to know yourself and to understand how you got into your previous abusive relationship. Without taking the time to heal and learn from the experience, you’re at risk of falling back into abuse.