While divorce rates are falling, they’re still quite common, with about 40 percent of all marriages ending in divorce.
Splitting up with a spouse can bring tons of heartache and turmoil, as well as financial, familial, and personal stress.
During these times, it’s pertinent that you stay positive and do everything you can to reduce divorce stress.
While that’s often easier said than done, we’ve compiled a list of ways you can minimize divorce stress and stay positive during this dark period.
Spend Time With Family And Friends
When you marry, you expect your partner to be the one person you can always count on. So it makes sense that your faith in others may be a bit shaken following your decision to get a divorce.
Don’t let your past experiences dictate your future. Now, more than ever is the time to reach out.
Start spending time with family and friends. Don’t be afraid to confide in them and let them know you’re hurting.
By nature, humans are empathetic and seek companionship from others who understand us. Leaning on your loved ones can bring you closer and lift you up during your time of need.
Keep Track of Finances
Aside from the emotional pain, divorces can be financially draining when you factor in the cost of lawyers and court fees. On average, the price of divorce falls somewhere between $500 and $9,000.
Therefore, you’ll need to be smart with your money. If you haven’t already, start keeping track of your finances.
Free sites like Mint can help you determine a monthly budget that fits your needs when going through a divorce.
Write About Your Divorce Stress
Even with work and social obligations, it’s easy to isolate yourself and get stuck in your own head.
Be careful of critical thinking. Once you get started, it’s hard to stop.
You can curb negative thinking by writing your feelings down in a journal, or detail your journey online.
Whenever you’re feeling upset, write out your feelings. Studies show that there are benefits to seeing your thoughts on paper.
Volunteer Your Time
Giving your time to others in need is a great way to take you out of your own mind (and home) for a little while. By volunteering, you’ll stay busy while making a difference in your community.
There are tons of service options for people of every type.
Take cute shelter puppies out for a walk if you love animals. Hand out meals at your local soup kitchen if you’re concerned about the homeless. Mentor kids and take a vested interest in their future.
After an afternoon of service, your divorce stress will lower and you’ll feel great about yourself to boot.
Final Thoughts on Coping With Divorce Stress
Divorce is never a happy situation. But you can view it as the end of your life or the beginning of a brand new chapter.
Keep these tips in mind and remember to breathe. You can handle anything that comes your way.
BY DALE HARRIS